POWER OF VULNERABILITY

#29 RULE OF ME-LOVE

Shed

Shed, from your life, the things that do not nurture you. Shed the people who do not treat you with respect, or who make you feel insignificant. Shed the music that rubs you the wrong way, the food that makes you feel like crap, the thoughts that cloud your mind. Do not worry about filling this newly found space with other things. Just make room for the possibility of positive replacements.

#28 RULE OF ME-LOVE

Exude

Definition: verb, meaning to ooze forth or to exhibit in abundance

 You are more than just your physical body; you are also the light and the energy that carries you and animates you. The more we can exude that inner feeling, the more it will transcend to the outer world. People will look at you differently. 

So do your best to EXUDE. Exude confidence. Exude sexuality. Exude happiness and contentment. Channel your inner Marilyn Monroe. It starts from the inside and begins to shine out.

LOVE MONKEY !

#27 RULE OF ME-LOVE

Do something that scares you

Whether it's bungee jumping or giving someone your number or quitting your job. Just do it. You'll never feel more alive. And every time you face a fear, you grow as a person.


And in fact, it's not necessarily about doing something "scary". Try doing something different than what you've been doing or what you're used to. It's a great starting point. And let's be honest, change itself is scary enough.

I LOVE THESE QUOTES (BUT I LOVE ME MORE!)

"If you are lonely when you're alone, you are in bad company." 

- Jean-Paul Sartre

"It's not having what you want, it's wanting what you've got."

-Sheryl Crow

"Loving people live in a loving world. Hostile people live in a hostile world. Same world."

- Wayne Dyer

"I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls."

- Audrey Hepburn

FEAR & LOVE

"There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life."

- John Lennon

#26 RULE OF ME-LOVE

Laugh

Every day.

With others.

Wholeheartedly.

AT YOURSELF.

When something is really, really funny.

It is my personal opinion that laughter is the healthiest activity on the planet. It is infectious and genuine laughter is attractive on anyone.

#25 RULE OF ME-LOVE

Have an attitude of gratitude

It's easy to get caught up in the wanting game. When you start feeling deprived or sorry for yourself, make a very conscious note of what you are grateful for. You have a lot going for you.

At least one person in this world loves me unconditionally.

A lot of people care about me.

I have a closet full of clothes.

I live in a beautiful and free country.

I eat three meals a day.

I am smart and talented and good looking.

I am HEALTHY.

I am among the most privileged people in the world.

I am so lucky to be alive and be me.

SUNSCREEN SPEECH

#24 RULE OF ME-LOVE

Make vows


I am currently working on a list of 100 vows to myself.


#1. I promise to love myself unconditionally for as long as I shall live.
#18. I promise to take care of my body in the interest of living a long and comfortable life.
#33. I promise to create adventures throughout my lifetime.
#47. I promise to never stop believing in love.


* As a fun little exercise, try wearing a ring on your ring finger for a day or a week, reminding you to honor the vows you've made.

MERMAIDS AREN'T REAL

A while back, at the entrance of a gym, there was a picture of a very thin and beautiful woman. The caption was "This summer, do you want to be a mermaid or a whale?"

The story goes, a woman (of clothing size unknown) answered the following way:

"Dear people, whales are always surrounded by friends (dolphins, seals, curious humans), they are sexually active and raise their children with great tenderness.

They entertain like crazy with dolphins and eat lots of prawns. They swim all day and travel to fantastic places like Patagonia, the Barents Sea or the coral reefs of Polynesia.

They sing incredibly well and sometimes even are on cds. They are impressive and dearly loved animals, which everyone defend and admires.

Mermaids do not exist.

But if they existed, they would line up to see a psychologist because of a problem of split personality: woman or fish?

They would have no sex life and could not bear children.

Yes, they would be lovely, but lonely and sad.

And, who wants a girl that smells like fish by his side?

Without a doubt, I'd rather be a whale.

At a time when the media tells us that only thin is beautiful, I prefer to eat ice cream with my kids, to have dinner with my husband, to eat and drink and have fun with my friends.

We women, we gain weight because we accumulate so much wisdom and knowledge that there isn't enough space in our heads, and it spreads all over our bodies.

We are not fat, we are greatly cultivated.

Every time I see my curves in the mirror, I tell myself: "How amazing am I ?! "

(The girl on the picture is French model Tara Lynn)

I LOVE THESE QUOTES (BUT I LOVE ME MORE!)

"Love yourself - accept yourself - forgive yourself - be good to yourself. Because without you, the rest of us are without a source of many wonderful things."

- Leonardo Buscaglia

"Self-love is not opposed to the love of other people. You cannot really love yourself and do yourself a favor without doing people a favor, and vise versa."

- Karl Menninger

"Self-love, my liege, is not so vile a sin, as self-neglecting."

- William Shakespeare

"Do you want to meet the love of your life? Look in the mirror."

- Byron Katie

#23 RULE OF ME-LOVE

Get naked and get used to it!

Body image issues are big big issues. It's time to get naked and tackle them (sorry for that image). I want you to learn to be comfortable in your skin. It is the key to intimacy.

Tips:

• A friend of mine took a dance class where they practiced "zoning". Mentally divide your body up into zones, put on some trancy hippy music, and then just feel your body one zone at a time. Great way to get in touch with your physical form.
• Take a hint from the models and the strippers - LIGHTING can make a huge difference in how you look naked. I highly recommend getting a red light for your bedroom lamp. Trust me on this ladies, red light is much more forgiving. It's a good start for getting more comfortable spending time and seeing yourself in the nude.
• Watch this incredible show How to Look Good Naked.

#22 RULE OF ME-LOVE

Have days when you don't love yourself

I'm having one right now. It's natural. But it's not hopeless. Let yourself know that though it's hard to find yourself lovable at times, you will fall in love again. Hopefully tomorrow.

^

utterly unlovable &&

a face only a mother could love

tee hee