I'VE GOT A CRUSHH. IT'S ABOUT TO GET REEAL SERIOUS. I THINK I'M IN LOOVE.
You know how people say "To love someone else, you must first love yourself"? Well, it turns out they are right! If you're looking for a catch, you've got to be a catch. You have to believe it. There's a glow, a certain aura, that people give off when they are in love or loving what they are doing, and people can't help but find it irresistibly attractive. Fall in love with yourself, and you may be surprised to find great things and great people start to gravitate towards you. It's time stop searching out there for your perfect match, and put all that energy back towards yourself. Foster that self-love and self-worth that we so often downplay, ignore or deny. Too often, people settle for what they think they deserve. Do yourself a favor: raise your self-esteem, your standards and your expectations. Today. For a change, try treating yourself the way you would expect your ideal partner to treat you. In other words, date yourself! Compliment yourself, treat yourself, wine and dine yourself, impress yourself. Go out of your way to make you smile. We have an endless supply of love, so toss some of it to the one person that will always be there: you.

Monday, October 31, 2011

FEAR & LOVE

"There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life."

- John Lennon

Sunday, October 30, 2011

#26 RULE OF ME-LOVE

Laugh

Every day.
With others.
Wholeheartedly.
AT YOURSELF.
When something is really, really funny.

It is my personal opinion that laughter is the healthiest activity on the planet. It is infectious and genuine laughter is attractive on anyone.

Tuesday, October 18, 2011

#25 RULE OF ME-LOVE

Have an attitude of gratitude

It's easy to get caught up in the wanting game. When you start feeling deprived or sorry for yourself, make a very conscious note of what you are grateful for. You have a lot going for you.

At least one person in this world loves me unconditionally.
A lot of people care about me.
I have a closet full of clothes.
I live in a beautiful and free country.
I eat three meals a day.
I am smart and talented and good looking.
I am HEALTHY.
I am among the most privileged people in the world.
I am so lucky to be alive and be me.

Friday, October 7, 2011

#24 RULE OF ME-LOVE

Make vows


I am currently working on a list of 100 vows to myself.


#1. I promise to love myself unconditionally for as long as I shall live.
#18. I promise to take care of my body in the interest of living a long and comfortable life.
#33. I promise to create adventures throughout my lifetime.
#47. I promise to never stop believing in love.


* As a fun little exercise, try wearing a ring on your ring finger for a day or a week, reminding you to honor the vows you've made.

Wednesday, October 5, 2011

MERMAIDS AREN'T REAL



A while back, at the entrance of a gym, there was a picture of a very thin and beautiful woman. The caption was "This summer, do you want to be a mermaid or a whale?"

The story goes, a woman (of clothing size unknown) answered the following way:

"Dear people, whales are always surrounded by friends (dolphins, seals, curious humans), they are sexually active and raise their children with great tenderness.
They entertain like crazy with dolphins and eat lots of prawns. They swim all day and travel to fantastic places like Patagonia, the Barents Sea or the coral reefs of Polynesia.
They sing incredibly well and sometimes even are on cds. They are impressive and dearly loved animals, which everyone defend and admires.

Mermaids do not exist.

But if they existed, they would line up to see a psychologist because of a problem of split personality: woman or fish?
They would have no sex life and could not bear children.
Yes, they would be lovely, but lonely and sad.
And, who wants a girl that smells like fish by his side?

Without a doubt, I'd rather be a whale.

At a time when the media tells us that only thin is beautiful, I prefer to eat ice cream with my kids, to have dinner with my husband, to eat and drink and have fun with my friends.

We women, we gain weight because we accumulate so much wisdom and knowledge that there isn't enough space in our heads, and it spreads all over our bodies.
We are not fat, we are greatly cultivated.
Every time I see my curves in the mirror, I tell myself: "How amazing am I ?! "

(The girl on the picture is French model Tara Lynn)

Sunday, October 2, 2011

I LOVE THESE QUOTES (BUT I LOVE ME MORE!)

"Love yourself - accept yourself - forgive yourself - be good to yourself. Because without you, the rest of us are without a source of many wonderful things."
- Leonardo Buscaglia

"Self-love is not opposed to the love of other people. You cannot really love yourself and do yourself a favor without doing people a favor, and vise versa."
- Karl Menninger

"Self-love, my liege, is not so vile a sin, as self-neglecting."
- William Shakespeare

"Do you want to meet the love of your life? Look in the mirror."
- Byron Katie

Wednesday, September 21, 2011

#23 RULE OF ME-LOVE

Get naked and get used to it!

Body image issues are big big issues. It's time to get naked and tackle them (sorry for that image). I want you to learn to be comfortable in your skin. It is the key to intimacy.

Tips:
  • A friend of mine took a dance class where they practiced "zoning". Mentally divide your body up into zones, put on some trancy hippy music, and then just feel your body one zone at a time. Great way to get in touch with your physical form.
  • Take a hint from the models and the strippers - LIGHTING can make a huge difference in how you look naked. I highly recommend getting a red light for your bedroom lamp. Trust me on this ladies, red light is much more forgiving. It's a good start for getting more comfortable spending time and seeing yourself in the nude.
  • Watch this incredible show How to Look Good Naked.

Thursday, September 15, 2011

#22 RULE OF ME-LOVE

Have days when you don't love yourself

I'm having one right now. It's natural. But it's not hopeless. Let yourself know that though it's hard to find yourself lovable at times, you will fall in love again. Hopefully tomorrow.



^
utterly unlovable &&
a face only a mother could love
tee hee

Wednesday, September 14, 2011

#21 RULE OF ME-LOVE

Love yourself FOR a flaw

*[This was by far the most difficult thing for me to come to terms with personally.]

 We all have flaws and we all dwell on them from time to time. You have been working on loving yourself despite your flaws. Now entertain the idea of loving yourself FOR those very flaws.

I love me for my butt. It's proportionally large and it jiggles and, dimples and all, I still love my body.
I love me for the way I write directions down on my arm and then can never find where I'm trying to go.







*Note: This does not mean that you should stop trying to improve or better yourself. It is just to say that you will never be perfect and it is some of your imperfections that make you who you are - and you are incredible.

Tuesday, September 13, 2011

#20 RULE OF ME-LOVE

Stop saying "... and then I'll be happy."

You need to learn to be happy in the current circumstances of which you live. We are all guilty of this.

I need to lose 10 lbs and then I'll be happy.
When I finish this project/deadline, then I'll be happy.
Once I get married, I'll be happy.
After I catch up on bills I'll be happy.
When I buy that car, then I'll be happy.

Try to take these phrases out of your vocabulary. There's always gonna be something. The goal is not to find someone or something to make us happy. The goal is to be as happy as possible as often as possible, period. Regardless or current relationship status, weight, finances, job, stressors, ETC.


Monday, September 12, 2011

#19 RULE OF ME-LOVE

Tell someone about your crush


In conversation, tell someone (who doesn't know you too well) about your new crush, without revealing that it's you. Tell  them how sweet and thoughtful this "guy" is. And how good looking and smart. It's a fun little exercise to hear yourself talk aloud about how great you are.

Saturday, September 10, 2011

I LOVE THESE QUOTES! (BUT I LOVE ME MORE)

“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.”
- Oscar Wilde


“Lend yourself to others, but give yourself to yourself.”
- Michel de Montaigne


“Your task is not to seek for Love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”
- Rumi


“The love you seek is seeking you at this moment.”
- Deepak Chopra

Wednesday, September 7, 2011

THIS IS YOUR LIFE


#17 RULE OF ME-LOVE

Beware comfort food

It is not uncommon to over-eat (or under-eat) when feeling lonely, bored and/or depressed. For some people (myself included), food is used as a comfort, because you are happy, if only for the moment, when you are eating. We are often trying to fill an emptiness that we feel within. Temporary "fullness" quickly turns into feeling poorly about ourselves, and more empty than before. Become aware of these habits. As much as possible, try to fill your spirit with things other than food - things that make you feel whole and complete in the long term. Of course, there is nothing wrong with treating yourself to a little soul food now and then. If you are going to splurge, make sure you indulge with guilt-free enthusiasm.

Tuesday, September 6, 2011

#16 RULE OF ME-LOVE

Dear Diary

Write a diary entry about yourself as though you were writing about your crush in junior high.

Dear diary,
Tori is sooo dreamy. She's really good looking, I love her blue eyes and how they fade to green in the middle. And she is so nice to everyone she meets, and I love the way she sticks up for people and doesn't stand for bullying. She's smart too, it seems like she's effortlessly brilliant, but I know she works really hard at what she does. And she's super funny and witty. I love the sound of her laugh. She gives me butterflies and I just feel so lucky to be her friend. I would be the luckiest person in the world if she liked me back.